Christian Hates When People are Pleasant to Him: Grey Chapter 3

Oh my goodness, this is the best review of Grey. I mean, it’s not chapter by chapter or anything awesome like that, but is it a scathing and nasty review of this book? HELL YEAH. Apologies if any of you have already linked to this in the comments – I’m a bit behind on them, but am trying to catch up as quickly as possible!

Grey: Sunday, May 15, 2011

Ah, Sunday, May 15, 2011. An historic day, remembered for Christian’s photoshoot and Ana and Christian’s first date.

While on his morning jog, “blasting Moby” (HIS TASTE IS JUST SO ECLECTIC), Christian muses on the impact Ana has already had on him:

Since I’ve met her, my dreams have been a welcome change from the occasional nightmare. I wonder what Flynn would make of that. The thought is disconcerting, so I ignore it and concentrate on pushing my body to its limits along the bank of the Willamette.

I’m truly having trouble understanding which part of his thought process is disconcerting. Like 99% of Christian’s thoughts are actually disconcerting, and this is what he chooses to be alarmed by? It’s like going to McDonalds and only being concerned about what’s in the french fries.

After getting ready, Christian heads downstairs in his hotel to the room Kate and Ana have booked for the photoshoot. Where is this budget for the photoshoot coming from? I know that Jose is probably doing this pro bono for his friends, but Christian says, “Room 601 is crowded with people,” so who are all these other people? How did Kate set this all up with like no notice whatsoever?

Twice this chapter, Christian expresses his distaste for when a woman wears jeans because of their lack of convenience. Here’s the first instance:

She’s wearing tight jeans and chucks with a short-sleeved navy jacket and a white T-shirt beneath. Are jeans and chucks her signature look? While not very convenient, they do flatter her shapely legs.

Can you imagine how irritating it would be to have to wear skirts all the time just so Christian Grey wouldn’t have to waste his precious time taking your jeans off and instead could just lift up your skirt and dive right in? I know Christian is getting erections constantly when Ana’s around, but this makes it sound like he’ll just casually lift her skirt while they’re in public to satisfy himself.

Ana introduces Kate and Christian, and again he says nothing at all about knowing her father and just asks how she’s feeling. There’s also this,

She has a firm, confident handshake, and I doubt she’s ever faced a day of hardship in her privileged life. I wonder why these women are friends. They have nothing in common.


How would you be able to tell that from her hand/handshake? I’m sure Christian’s hands aren’t exactly calloused and representative of any hardships of his life. It’s not like he grew up a farmer, he was adopted into a wealthy family and has amassed an incredible fortune of his own. I’m also certain Ana hasn’t faced any real hardship in her life either come to think of it. Why would Christian assume he knows anything about Kate’s life let alone think he knows enough about her or Ana to cast judgement on their friendship.

Christian is then introduced to Jose, which sends him spiraling into a pit of insecurity and idiocy:

“This is José Rodriguez, our photographer,” Anastasia says, and her face lights up as she introduces him.

Shit. Is this the boyfriend?

Rodriguez blooms under Ana’s sweet smile.

Are they fucking?

I completely get that when you meet someone you’re interested in, and you don’t know whether or not they’re single, it’s going to be something you’re curious about. However, the question ‘are they fucking’ that’s prompted simply by the fact that Jose like returns Ana’s smile is absurd. In the words of Christian himself – steady, Grey. I don’t know why it cracks me up so much when Christian admonishes himself that way.

Christian and Jose exchange looks and introductions that are full of challenge and machismo! Then the photoshoot actually starts, and Christian makes more unfounded assumptions about Ana and Kate’s friendship:

Does she always shy away like this? Maybe that’s why she and Kavanagh are friends; she’s content to be in the background and let Katherine take center stage.

Or maybe they make each other laugh and support one another in all their endeavours? IDK seems possible. It’s also absolutely hilarious that Christian would be concerned about Ana and Kate having nothing in common when one could very easily point the same question at him and Ana.

As the photoshoot comes to an end, Christian thinks, “Seize the day, Grey,” and goes to ask Ana to walk him out. Christian thinks Ana is trying to turn him down when he invites her out for coffee and she says that she has to drive everyone home. STEADY, GREY!!!! She actually just offers to switch cars with Kate, which makes me wonder why she had to drive everyone home if they could all fit into one car anyway and Kate had driven as well?

What the hell am I going to say to her?

“How would you like to be my submissive?”

No. Steady, Grey. Let’s take this one stage at a time. 

Christian also frets when Ana takes more than thirty seconds to swap cars with Kate:

How long is Anastasia going to be? I check my watch. She must be negotiating the car swap with Katherine. Or she’s talking to Rodriguez, explaining that she’s just going for coffee to placate me and keep me sweet for the article. My thoughts darken. Maybe she’s kissing him good-bye.


She emerges a moment later, and I’m pleased. She doesn’t look like she’s just been kissed.

Oh my god, she was gone for two full minutes, maybe she was being impregnated by Jose! Maybe they closed on a property together! No, steady, Grey.

Christian, still concerned about Ana’s friendship with Kate for some reason (“specifically their compatibility”) asks Ana about their friendship. Ana just says they’ve known each other since their freshman year and they’re good friends, and that seems to be enough to satisfy Christian for some reason. He didn’t even ask if they get their periods together! He’s more concerned about the fact that when he takes Ana’s hand it’s “cool and not clammy as expected” so she must not be into him if her hands aren’t clammy!

At the cafe, Christian continues his quest to be the most miserable human on the planet.

I have to wait in line while the two matronly women behind the counter exchange inane pleasantries with all their customers. It’s frustrating and keeping me from my objective: Anastasia.


“You visiting Portland?”


“The weekend?”


“The weather sure has picked up today.”


“I hope you get out to enjoy some sunshine.”

Please stop talking to me and hurry the fuck up.

“Yes,” I hiss through my teeth and glance over at Ana, who quickly looks away.

Is this scene meant to play for laughs? It totally does, but I don’t think for the intended reasons. I’m not like, “Oh ho ho, that Christian is so grumpy and loveable with his hatred of inane pleasantries.” I’m more on the side of laughing at what a douchebag he really and truly is.

“Pay at the register, honey, and you have a nice day, now.”

I manage a cordial response. “Thank you.”

Oh, yeah, what a real struggle to respond kindly to someone that had a brief and very nice encounter with you.

If you were thinking to you yourself, for some reason, that Christian’s innermost thoughts couldn’t get any weirder, think again.

“This is my favorite tea,” she says, and I revise my mental note that it’s Twinings English Breakfast tea she likes. I watch her dunk the teabag in the teapot. It’s an elaborate and messy spectacle.

She fishes it out almost immediately and places the used teabag on her saucer. My mouth is twitching with my amusement.

As she tells me she likes her tea weak and black, for a moment I think she’s describing what she likes in a man.

Let’s set aside the fact that Ana’s weird way of preparing tea doesn’t seem at all messy or elaborate. Instead, let’s focus on Christian’s…attempt at a joke? Racist outburst? Desperate cry for help? How to we even find the words to talk about what has just happened here today. 1) Why would he even for a second think that Ana is talking about what she likes in a man when she has fucking said, “I like my tea weak and black.” 2) If that is meant to be a joke, a terrible, lazy attempt at a joke, it’s not even delivered correctly. It would have to be, “Is that also how she likes her men?” If you’re going to fall back on this kind of thing, at least do it in a way that makes sense. 3) Why would Ana out of nowhere be like, “I like my men weak and black. Just like my tea.”

Get a grip, Grey. She’s talking about tea.

Okay, so Christian’s inner…Christian doesn’t even get this line of thought. Which means that a part of Christian, for a moment, was actually terrified that he wasn’t Ana’s type because she likes weak, black men? Again, there was no ambiguity whatsoever in what Ana was referring to when she said, “I like my tea weak and black.”

Christian prods Ana about whether she’s dating Jose or Paul (which he’d already asked her at the hardware store) and about her family. Even though he had the background check done, he has to pretend he doesn’t know anything about her family like all good stalkers know!

Ana continues to frustrate and annoy Christian by doing things like making it hard for him to know if she’s interested and laughing (IS IT AT ME OR WITH ME? GET A GRIP, GREY!)

What I’ve come to quickly realize, is that Christian is just every awful contestant from the Bachelorette rolled into one, ginormous douche machine. He’s obsessed with Ana one second, but that as soon as he isn’t confident about her interest in him, he starts finding ridiculous reasons to put the kibosh on this.

Seriously, if you’re not watching this season of the Bachelorette, you’re missing out on so much laughter. It brings me endless joy.

“Do you always wear jeans?” I ask.

“Mostly,” she says, and it’s two strikes against her: incurable romantic who only wears jeans… I like my women in skirts. I like them accessible.

“Do you have a girlfriend?” she asks out of the blue, and it’s the third strike. I’m out of this fledgling deal. She wants romance, and I can’t offer her that.

“No, Anastasia. I don’t do the girlfriend thing.” Stricken with a frown, she turns abruptly and stumbles into the road.

First of all, there’s the second reference to Christian hating when women wear jeans because of a lack of accessibility. Still ew.

Second, why is it okay that Christian keeps asking Ana if every guy that smiles in her general direction is her boyfriend but when she asks if he has a girlfriend his reaction is to say it’s a deal breaker. I know Christian is famous for his overreactions, but this one seemed particularly absurd.

Ana, stricken at Christian’s shocking revelation, falls into oncoming traffic. Luckily, Christian saves her just in time to tell her he’s not the man for her. Man, I wonder if these two crazy kids will ever make it work.

I end this post with another ridiculous gif from this season of The Bachelorette that I couldn’t find another place for:



    • 22aer22 Reply

      Thanks for sharing! Looks like we have a lot to look forward to in the coming weeks…The first Red Room scene seems particularly hilarious. And aww thank you! Hope you keep on enjoying the Grey posts 😀

  1. Bellomy Reply

    I know Christian is getting erections constantly when Ana’s around, but this makes it sound like he’ll just casually lift her skirt while they’re in public to satisfy himself.

    I’m not going to trawl through the archives looking for this, but it is worth nothing that Gideon did pretty much exactly this to Eva with somebody else in the room having a conversation with them.

    Just in case you forgot that these two series are basically the same thing.

    • 22aer22 Reply

      Bahaha are you talking about the time at Gideon’s family party when they’re having sex and his brother walks in and is like, “Hey mom is looking for you” while Gideon just carries on doing Eva? I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s actually another scene you’re thinking of as well, unfortunately.

      I guess what these books are trying to teach the world is that when a man needs to fuck, a man needs to fuck.

    • 22aer22 Reply

      Thank you! Steady, Grey just continues to be my favourite thing in these books. Can’t even put my finger on why, but it never fails to amuse me.

  2. Honey Reply

    I completely agree with you on Christian’s ‘analysis’ of Ana and Kate’s friendship. They’re not exactly the same!?! They surely can’t be friends. Then again, maybe Ana uses Kate as a shield for her insecurities, that’s the only reason they could be spending time together (although…Ana is living with Kate rent free, and is a bit of a mooch). No way that two people could be different and still be friends. I have some people I need to contact today to rescind my friendship, as it doesn’t make sense to a sadistic billionaire who has never met them. Sorry ladies!

    I feel like Christian watched a couple episodes of ‘Sherlock’ and fancies himself a better detective. He is always trying to analyse people’s actions and motives in some weird way. Kate’s handshake, Ana not looking kisses, and later on about seeing the table cloth move and knowing that Ana tightened her thighs. Seriously, it seems like he is trying to do this crazy analysing, but can not do it because he’s not as awesome as Sherlock Holmes.

    I also love that he keeps having to give himself little pep talks. Perhaps he is not as cock-sure as we all think. Almost character development…. not quite.

    ‘It’s frustrating and keeping me from my objective: Anastasia.’ I read that line and in my head replaced objective with objectifying.

    You know that saying about if you want to know what a person is really like, see how they treat servers/restaurant staff? I don’t think I need to elaborate (but I will ….Christian is a class-A douchecanoe).

    Your use of the 30Rock gif – absolutely genius. I love that’s Christian’s like ‘Oh, 3 strikes baby, you’re out,’ yet somehow lets her weasel her way into his icy heart. Dude, seriously, if it’s 3 strikes that means she’s a no-go. That does not mean try and see her anyway and coerce her into being what you want. No! That’s….Christian….come on.

    If I ever dated someone who thought about me like this they would be kicked to the curb in a heartbeat. He’s so disgusting. This is not romance – it’s nightmare fodder. No one should be looking at this guy and getting a lady boner (or man boner, for that matter). I wish this could exist in a bubble of everyone gets why it is ridiculous instead of some people genuinely thinking this is good (or even worse, what they want to emulate).

    As always, Ariel, great post. : ) Sorry my responses are always so long. I’m inspired to respond in an angry rage as I hate everything about this series so much.

    • 22aer22 Reply

      I love your comments, never a need to apologize! My posts about these books are always super long for the exact same reason.

      The stuff about Ana and Kate’s friendship just gets more and more irritating. He’s seen them together like once and he’s like “SHE MUST BE A BAD FRIEND.” And it’s clearly just the classic thing abusive people do where they want to isolate you from the people that love you and would notice when something is wrong. Because we know from Ana’s perspective that Kate is really suspicious of Christian. I mean, Kate by no means comes across as an amazing friend – Ana is always like NOSY KATE! That’s like her only thing + Elliot.

      Christian’s three strikes were so stupid too! Omg she asked if I have a girlfriend even though I’ve literally asked if every man is her boyfriend.

  3. Francesca Reply

    No lip-biting yet? I’m worried. This was one of the most interesting leit motiv of the entire book…

    • 22aer22 Reply

      There’s definitely been lip biting! I think my random selection of quotes just hasn’t reflected that. Definitely during the bagel-eating scene at Claytons. I think even during this date at one point.

    • Honey Reply

      Polly, that tumblr is absolute magic!!! I hope to see some of these soon as they are brilliant. : D

      • Polly Reply

        It really made me laugh too! It occurred to me after I linked it that not everyone has seen Blackadder (is it big outside the UK?) so I’m glad someone got it! On another bright note I’ve found thinking of Christian’s narration in Flashheart’s voice vastly improved the Grey experience!

        • 22aer22 Reply

          Hahaha this is great!! I haven’t seen much of Blackadder, but my husband showed it to me way back when we had started dating. I don’t remember ever seeing it in the US but there are definitely people that would have gotten their hands on it there.

  4. Kristin Reply

    So “Steady, Grey” is this book’s “Holy Crap?” And people rushed out to buy this garbage?

    • 22aer22 Reply

      Don’t forget Christian’s random outburst of “Hell!” He’s so much more fleshed out than one catch-phrase.

  5. KayMia Reply

    Such a lost opportunity for a Christian Grey subconscious who wears a dressing gown, ascot, and Persian slippers while smoking a pipe and who interrupts his perusal of the day’s market news to say, “steady, old boy!”

  6. Madeline Reply

    Yes Christian. Be annoyed by and rude to the pleasant ladies serving you, that work in the service industry on a crap wage, while you are a gazillionaire sexual python. FUCK YOU CHRISTIAN.

    • 22aer22 Reply

      You know, you would think since Christian is like, “I like boats. They bring food to people.” He would also be like, “I like people who serve food to people.” And since he’s meant to be such a charitable person who tries to improve the lives in people in poverty, he’d be kinder to people in the service industry.

    • 22aer22 Reply

      YES! The one asking her to confirm if she’s writing a book from Ramsay Bolton’s perspective was my favourite.

  7. bookbaron Reply

    steady, Grey. I don’t know why it cracks me up so much when Christian admonishes himself that way.

    Maybe because he addresses himself by his last name in his own head? Iunno… I’ve never done this. It would have been hilarious if it was, “steady mr. Grey.”

    • 22aer22 Reply

      SAME like no idea why, but I love it so much. I bet when he and Ana get married he’ll start to say, “Steady, Mr. Grey!”


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